DO OTHER’S OPINIONS MATTER?
Seek approval from your inner being rather than from other people. Dwelling on others’ opinions about you is a waste of time, and it is not your business in the first place. It is not going to help you in anyway.
People need not be your source of approval. You are the best person who can approve of yourself. Approve of yourself before anyone else can approve of you for the good job you have done, for the love that you are, for your kind heart, for all of the things you do, and for existing on this planet at this time. You are a grand being, and you are a very important part of the planet. By appreciating and approving of yourself, you will no longer seek approval on the outside, and you will not be dependent or addicted to others’ opinions in anyway. You will be your own powerful guiding light.
The problem with depending on other people’s approval, is that you dance to their tunes which are never true for you. You become addicted to the outside report and push yourself into stress. What others think of you is certainly not your business; however, living your life from the place of joy within and awakening yourself into a responsible, capable, loving, harmonious, and happy human is absolutely your business.
People need not be your source of approval. You are the best person who can approve of yourself. Approve of yourself before anyone else can approve of you for the good job you have done, for the love that you are, for your kind heart, for all of the things you do, and for existing on this planet at this time. You are a grand being, and you are a very important part of the planet. By appreciating and approving of yourself, you will no longer seek approval on the outside, and you will not be dependent or addicted to others’ opinions in anyway. You will be your own powerful guiding light.
The problem with depending on other people’s approval, is that you dance to their tunes which are never true for you. You become addicted to the outside report and push yourself into stress. What others think of you is certainly not your business; however, living your life from the place of joy within and awakening yourself into a responsible, capable, loving, harmonious, and happy human is absolutely your business.
Buddha’s story
Once the Buddha was giving a spiritual discourse and there was an angry man who wanted to take out his anger on Buddha. He got up and started scolding and uttering all sorts of ugly words to the Buddha. The Buddha stood silently, with a smile on his face. After being spent of his anger, the man came up to the Buddha and asked, "Don't you feel angry, are you not ashamed that I spoke like this to you in front of all these people?"
The Buddha in all his wisdom replied:
"Young man, you have an apple in your hand, and you are offering it to me, but I did not take it, so tell me where is the apple now?"
The man said that the apple is still with him, so the Buddha replied:
"Likewise your words are with you, I did not make them mine."
Once the Buddha was giving a spiritual discourse and there was an angry man who wanted to take out his anger on Buddha. He got up and started scolding and uttering all sorts of ugly words to the Buddha. The Buddha stood silently, with a smile on his face. After being spent of his anger, the man came up to the Buddha and asked, "Don't you feel angry, are you not ashamed that I spoke like this to you in front of all these people?"
The Buddha in all his wisdom replied:
"Young man, you have an apple in your hand, and you are offering it to me, but I did not take it, so tell me where is the apple now?"
The man said that the apple is still with him, so the Buddha replied:
"Likewise your words are with you, I did not make them mine."
Reminder: Do not make the opinions of others’ as yours. Allow people to have their opinions, BUT DO NOT MAKE THEM YOURS.
Love, approve, and cherish yourself completely to remove yourself from getting addicted to people’s approval. It is always stressful and difficult to compete with others, compare your situation, or belittle your actions by considering what you should or should not have done. Freedom is giving the gift of KINDNESS to oneself. It means never allowing fear, anger, or sadness to cloud your life. It means to live life with total acceptance, flexibility, and without resistance. There is no success to be achieved, and there is no failure either. For whatever you are doing at any given moment with total love and acceptance, is the Ultimate Success.
This Prayer of Byron Katie is a powerful reminder:
“God spare me from the desire for love, approval, or appreciation.”
This Prayer of Byron Katie is a powerful reminder:
“God spare me from the desire for love, approval, or appreciation.”
Blessings!
Premlatha
Premlatha
(An Excerpt from my book "Twelve Steps to Inner Peace")
Copyright © 2012 P Rajkumar , S L Christian
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