WHY LOVE THE SELF?
Some dear friends have shared with me their difficulty with loving the self.
Some dear friends have shared with me their difficulty with loving the self.
Loving the self is so important, all relationships on the outside depend on it. Every relationship with people, money, job, food, health, with the planet, with God/Creator , every relationship gets healed and healthy when the relationship with the self is healed and healthy.
Sharing a question and answer session:
QUESTION: I want to be in a loving relationship, but I block myself every time someone tries to have a relationship with me, I push them away and then I feel sad, am I a bad person?
ANSWER:
The first thing you need to do is forgive yourself and love yourself. If you continue to criticize yourself and continue to say that you are bad then you can never love yourself. If you are not able to love or appreciate who you are then you cannot love or appreciate anyone else. When you can't love yourself you also cannot receive the love given to you by others, because deep within you feel that you are not worthy of being loved. So loving and forgiving the self is the answer.
QUESTION: I want to be in a loving relationship, but I block myself every time someone tries to have a relationship with me, I push them away and then I feel sad, am I a bad person?
ANSWER:
The first thing you need to do is forgive yourself and love yourself. If you continue to criticize yourself and continue to say that you are bad then you can never love yourself. If you are not able to love or appreciate who you are then you cannot love or appreciate anyone else. When you can't love yourself you also cannot receive the love given to you by others, because deep within you feel that you are not worthy of being loved. So loving and forgiving the self is the answer.
QUESTION: Okay, how do I forgive myself?
ANSWER: you have to stop complaining about you, you have to stop saying that you are bad or you did something wrong. See yourself as your own mother and look at yourself as your own child. How does a mother love the child, will she say the child is bad because she did something wrong?
Mother yourself, be your own mother, hug yourself , there is a little child inside you, you are being very hard on her, you are not treating her right, you are always complaining about her.
Sit quietly for sometime, see this little girl within you, lift her up to your lap, hug her and tell her that everything is okay, and that you love her very much. Hug her with complete feeling of love from your heart. She is worthy of your love.
Sit in this imagination for sometime.
As long as you can.
Do this exercise everyday sincerely, wherever you are, whenever you get a quiet moment where you are not disturbed by people, pets or the phone.
The more sincerely you do it the more you will see beautiful changes within you and around you.
ANSWER: you have to stop complaining about you, you have to stop saying that you are bad or you did something wrong. See yourself as your own mother and look at yourself as your own child. How does a mother love the child, will she say the child is bad because she did something wrong?
Mother yourself, be your own mother, hug yourself , there is a little child inside you, you are being very hard on her, you are not treating her right, you are always complaining about her.
Sit quietly for sometime, see this little girl within you, lift her up to your lap, hug her and tell her that everything is okay, and that you love her very much. Hug her with complete feeling of love from your heart. She is worthy of your love.
Sit in this imagination for sometime.
As long as you can.
Do this exercise everyday sincerely, wherever you are, whenever you get a quiet moment where you are not disturbed by people, pets or the phone.
The more sincerely you do it the more you will see beautiful changes within you and around you.
You yourself are the most important person in your life who needs to be loved by you, you deserve your love more than anyone else. The moment you bring a beautiful relationship with yourself, all other relationships on the outside will automatically be set right.
Blessings!
Premlatha Rajkumar
Blessings!
Premlatha Rajkumar
